Step inside chic and stylish homes and get ideas and advice for designing your own space. Truly Chic Inspirations you’ll find parties, weddings, recipes, DIY projects and much more.
Category: Styling
The adage “out of sight is out of mind” is more fitting in relationships than is “absence makes the heart...
The post Maintain A Successful Long Distance Relationship is Less Harder If You Understand Your Partner’s Attachment Style appeared first on Lifehack.
The adage “out of sight is out of mind” is more fitting in relationships than is “absence makes the heart...
The post Maintain A Successful Long Distance Relationship is Less Harder If You Understand Your Partner’s Attachment Style appeared first on Lifehack.
The adage “out of sight is out of mind” is more fitting in relationships than is “absence makes the heart grow fonder”. Clichés as they both might be, long distance relationships are indeed no cakewalk and need far more effort and patience to maintain than a normal relationship where people live together or live in the same city and meet up often. Long distance relationships are hard to maintain simply because bringing the physical gap of not being able to see each other often, not knowing what the person is up to and even seeing your loved one in the presence of other people is a tough nut to crack! Also, it might have something to do with our attachment styles! [1]
We all have specific behaviors, when it comes to romance, which remain unchanged, even if we change partners. Many of us are often dubbed as clingy, or commitment-phobic, or even too independent when it comes to our relationships and basically, it all boils down to our specific attachment styles. [2]
Attachment styles are simply the way we behave with our loved one, and this behavior of ours then can make a relationship smooth and enjoyable to be in, or bumpy with too much strife and expectations. Remember that attachment styles can change with a big change in life – things like pregnancy, a new baby, adoption, a sudden financial crisis, the loss of a job, an accident or injury. [3]
Now the thing with attachment styles is that depending on the kind we have or are, and depending on the kind of attachment style our loved on has, is key to making a relationship work, or not!
If you grew up in a warm, safe and loving environment then you are the kind who feels secure in your relationship with your partner, are close to him or her but still respect individuality and independence in a relationship. You are the kind who can be with any kind of attachment type, and most likely to make a long distance relationship work to your advantage as well. [4]
If you are the anxious attachment type, you are likely to be the one most partners describe as clingy, possessive and even stifling. You often remain worried about the future of your relationship and depend on your partner for your happiness and fulfillment. You might find it difficult to maintain a long-distance relationship as your demanding nature will not find satisfaction in not getting the due attention over the distance. [5]
So, you are the one who would probably thrive in a long distance relationship for you probably like to keep detached from your partner and may not even consider him or her that important, to begin with. You are likely to come off as cold, distant and perhaps even narcissistic in nature. [6]
You are the one everyone dubs as commitment-phobic. Being in a relationship is scary enough for you, naming it and establishing concrete boundaries makes you run strike back and be rather moody. A long distance relationship should work for you as well as you basically like some distance between you and your significant other. [7]
If you’ve already had a failed long distance relationship and fear being in another one since you took that failure personally, well don’t, on all counts. Your failure may not have been your fault or even the other’s, rather it may be a relationship doomed to fail due to different attachment styles. But does that mean that you can never be successful in a long distance relationship, like ever?
Of course not! We all can be successful at anything we so wish to if we only put in a little effort and also change ourselves a tad. Depending on your attachment style, here’s what you need to do, to make it work! And mostly, the work remains the same – trust, patience and a lot of loving attention along with space given! [8]
Remember that all relationships are same only in that they all need work, effort and plenty of love to work. Mostly, if the love is there, you can make it work – distance be darned! That said; a long distance relationship does need that extra bit of effort more to retain the spark for an ending that’s equally bright and happy!
[1] | ^ | Simply Psychology: Mary Ainsworth |
[2] | ^ | Lifehack: The Scientific Explanation on Why We Attract What We Are |
[3] | ^ | Psychology Today: Attachment Styles Can’t Change, Can They? |
[4] | ^ | Jeb Kinnison: Bad Boyfriends The Book |
[5] | ^ | The Love Compass: Understanding The Needs of Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment Style |
[6] | ^ | Flow Psychology: Dismissive-Avoidant Attachment Disorder Style |
[7] | ^ | Psychology Today: Come Here Go Away, The Dynamics of Fearful Attachment |
[8] | ^ | Oxygen: Five Steps to Maintaining a Long Term Relationship |
The post Maintain A Successful Long Distance Relationship is Less Harder If You Understand Your Partner’s Attachment Style appeared first on Lifehack.